Oh My Dang: Red Tents

I’m cycling again!  Reader, have you heard of the ancient red tent / menstruation hut / Moonlodge?  A place where women join together in a communal support and love during their menstruation.  I’m relatively new to the world of learning more about my blood and cycle, too.  Let’s indulge ourselves together!  So, for the past year I have been joining the most fabulous group of women each dark moon (that’s the new moon on most calendars, when the moon is dark), and my soul feeds on and lives for and dies with and composts and rebirths and love love loves this ritual.  Early last year I was meeting only in the evening.  Willa was still very young, in fact, she attended my first three Moonlodge’s with me.  When she became more mobile, but could not yet contribute to the sacred content of the ceremony, she began to stay at home with her papa (which, let me tell you, has been beautiful for their relationship) and I became eons more committed to the nourishment my soul felt in response to this group and ritual. And in November last year I was invited to meet all day on every dark moon celebrating our womanhood, our cycle of life, and support of one another.  I love these women.

I have found a portal of knowledge about my ancestors, about myself, about my sisters, mothers, daughters, grandmothers, and so on and so on and so on and so on again.  Each dark moon brings new teachings to my plate.

This month I am spending some quality time remembering my first menstruation.  I am remembering the details, the dark details.  This month I am rejoicing in the return of this moon cycle, many many moons have passed without blood from my uterus after the sweetest Willa began growing in my belly.  And now, my body rejoices in the return of my fascinating moon cycle!

I celebrate my menstruation, and yours.  It’s so interesting that our culture is based around celebrating many many other things that are so directly correlated with our blood, but shuns the talk of the blood itself.  And, interestingly enough, we allow our cycle and our reproductive rights to be on the table of many political discussions.  Let’s get the party started before we let anyone crash it, let’s celebrate our bodies!

I want my daughter to grow up in a place where she is comfortable talking about her sync and symbiosis with the moon, where she feels loved and honored for the entire woman that she is, where she understands and loves the functions and goings-on of her body, and I am going to give my all to create this world.  Too, I know you know balance is important in this realm; that’s what Glitter & Grit is about: balancing these two worlds.  So I’m not suggesting that we run around the streets shouting about our periods (do it if you like), but I do believe that our culture could use a little more information and confidence from us ladies on the issue.  There are plenty of organizations out there doing their part, too!

How can we create a society where there is no longer shame around our blood?  You wonder?  (Me too.)  I’m thinking first off, we should spread the word about these Red Tents!  Second, do you have a keeper cup (to catch your moon blood to give it back to the earth)?  I originally bought mine as a financial investment; women spend thousands upon thousands of dollars on tampons and plastic pad supplies and my reusable keeper cup saves me!  I’m certain to write more on this topic another post.  Stay tuned.

I said oh my dang today, because I believe Red Tents all around the globe equals a safe place for women to shed shame of bleeding every month, a place for us to truly be ourselves, every single bit of ourselves, with women.  It saddens me to think that some young girls have no idea how to express their new blood to anyone, that they may feel shame because no one talks about it.  In my research to further educate myself about my menstruation, I fell in love with the beautiful women empowering other women in their writing and bleeding.  I love you, I am grateful for you.  We’re all in this life together, whether we choose to honor that or not.  And I’m glad we are in this together.  I think you’re beautiful.  Just exactly the way you are.

I think I’ve told you about this movie before, but I really want to share the video with you again.

Did you get goosebumps?  I do every time the beat changes and that woman starts dancing in the quaint dining room with her sisters.  I do every time I see my Santa Cruz Moonlodge on the beach!  I love this movie trailer, and I’m thrilled to see the extensive work these ladies have put forth come to fruition.

Have you read The Red Tent?  Do you have a Red Tent?  What is the most nourishing thing you do for your body / mind / spirit during your dark moon?  Do you have rituals which help heal and open your soul?

Trusting Our Instincts

One afternoon while I was working in the Davy Crockett National Forest with “at risk youth” my co guide Cedric and I were walking back from my group’s campsite to chat at the road during a particularly hectic shift (shifts were 8 days), and I had somehow forgotten my way but I was leading our path back. I immediately confessed to Cedric that I was unsure of our route and asked him to lead us back to the road. He was privy to my 30 day goal of trusting my instincts and said he was putting his complete faith in my gut instincts and that I would lead us to the road if I also trusted my gut. Nervous, but certain (due to my newfangled exterior support) I walked through the piney, lush, damp woods in east Texas back to the road!

From that moment I have known that my first reaction is generally my truth. My (your) instincts are raw and real. I have found that it is often difficult to follow these instincts if I let myself stray from the practice too long; my mind will rationalize and my heart will emotionalize anything until there is nothing left but indecision and curiosity (“what if I listened to my gut?”); but if I go with the knee jerk reaction, it tends to put me into the place I most need to be. A while back as I was solo adventuring up the west coast, I found myself completely animal–I trusted my instincts completely, even blindly at times. I like that. I really like that.

If our instincts are merely innate inclinations toward a particular behavior, it sounds simple to follow. Animals follow their instincts with complete blindness; the humpback whales leave the waters near Hawaii to feed on krill in the cold northern pacific ocean near Alaska, the birds fly south for the winter, the sea turtle babies know intuitively upon hatch to make their way toward the sea.

Why, then, so much discombobulation for humans when it comes to our gut instincts? Human babies instinctively use their voice to speak their woes and joys, and as I watch my daughter communicate so effectively with her hands and with the learned American Sign Language, I begin to wonder about what her instincts are. She instinctively wants nourishment from my breast milk; she instinctively seeks protection from Cody and I; I’ve seen Willa’s physical instincts reject a cracker via vomit before she was ready to eat sharp solids; Willa instincts guide her through her day on the farm. I’ve noticed American culture (lots of cultures?) dumbing down our instincts at an early age. I find myself truly trusting Willa as a human with very capable instincts and as a result, I am deeply connecting with her.

Isn’t this what we all want? Deep and meaningful relationships with ourselves and with our loved ones? I believe our instincts answer the little questions and the big ones! But it’s only natural to start out small if we have lost touch with our intuition; I started with my wardrobe choices each morning. If I felt most comfortable wearing the black dress I wore two days ago and nothing else seemed to suit the day, I threw on that black number without question; without fail. Baby steps, in instincts, too! If you’re lucky and have always trusted that deep voice in yourself, great work, you!

Print available at Story People (have you noticed how much I love the art of Brian Andreas?).

Today, Austin is for Lovers

Things I love today:

  • Bouldin Creek Coffeehouse!
  • The weather in Austin, it’s already mid-70s to low-80s and it’s beautiful! Beau-ti-ful, my friends, beautiful!
  • Saltlick Barbeque, Cody has been day dreaming and waking up in the mid of night (salivating through both) about getting some rib bones in his mitts. I love this man. He is a man after my own heart (and now he is really after my heart, y’all, we’re engaged!) And Saltlick is a true love.
  • South Congress is for lovers, and I myself love seeing the Capitol as I stroll along the beautiful street of cutesy eateries and antique shops
  • Did you know my dad built tables for the Capitol? Many years ago, he built 23 beautiful tables. Today, I love my dad’s beautiful artful woodwork. He is so creative! Here is a coffee table with a secret hiding spot atop that he made me some years ago

  • I love being inspired by my parents’ home, they have so much interesting stuff here.
  • Home Slice! Oh dear sweet love of all things, I love some Home Slice!
  • I love love love wedding planning!
  • The color of mustard
  • Did you ever see Wild Hearts Can’t Be Broken? Circa 1991, via Walt Disney. I did, and for some reason, I’m thinking a lot about the (based on a true story) movie; Sonora was amazing! I’m a sucker for horses, for romance, and for a runaway in the depression era, I think.

What do you love today, Reader?

Mah Sesh with tha Senator, Y’all: Oeuf et Jambon

For my anniversary/Spring Equinox breakfast, Cody made a divine baked egg and ham dish (a traditional French breakfast) accompanied with cast iron cooked gold and purple potatoes and California citrus on the side.

This dish loved being cooked in the Senator. The heat trap of the cast iron oven really lends itself to the cooking of the egg whites, while maintaining the runny yolk. This is a very difficult accomplishment with this dish–so I hear–and Cody mastered it!

He really made it seem simple, and the morning felt relaxed and new. I love how the egg looked next to the citrus and how it made me feel Spring-y, in a fresh and joyful and new-life kind of way.

First, he layered ham and cheese. He used a local cows milk cheese, semi hard and so delicious. Next he layered more ham and cheese. He baked this for about 15 minutes. The pre-bake.

Just as the oven opened and the bus smelled of sweetly cooked ham and creamy, lightly scorched cheese, he pulled the ramekins out of the Senator and cracked an egg over the ham and cheese. He put two eggs per dish. They settled into their desired locale in the ramekin and he put them back into the oven.

The eggs baked about 25-30 minutes in a 400 degree oven. About 20 minutes in, he added heavy whipping cream, just a smidgen. He eyeballed it. I know that despite many a controversy in the cooking world, in our kitchen, intuition plays a leading role. I will admit though, when baking, I wish I had more drive to strictly follow a recipe.

Once it was perfect, he pulled them out and put the finishing touches on brunch.

We have been collecting old silverware and I found this sweet fork in Santa Rosa while at the wedding of Cody’s cousin. Do you notice the engraved W?

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I feel like I could write pages about these beautiful oranges from our farmers market; that real live spot to make you feel grounded, the bright spring color; the juice which drips down your chin, the perfect pulp which pulls off the rind with ease; the zest of the rind and the plush but subtle pericarp; and the delicate pith devoting its scarceness to the delight its partaker; this is a perfect early spring snack, and a truly complemental piece to our Equinox brunch.
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We continued to build the fire in the Senator until the sun shone on the day long enough to radiate heat into the bus. I just downright love learning how to use this stove from 1894! It feels so nostalgic. The other morning we nearly had a 500 degree oven, can you believe it? We looked at each other, excited for the loaves of bread that will soon emerge from our sweet oven.

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So, our brunch was perfect and my anniversary memories continue to contribute to our romantic (ofttimes mental) scrapbook.

Wise Woman Words: Audrey Hepburn

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For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
-Audrey Hepburn

This could easily be an oh my dang moment for some of us; beauty advice that doesn’t require choosing the right base color or eye shadow or lip liner. You heard it, beauty advice (from a beauty) about your outlook on life and your out pour of words. How fabulous!

Although I believe that make up cultivates a reliance upon more make up (the more you use make up, the more you’ll need to make up), I also see the beauty in knowing how to dress up your confidence every once in a while (even if that’s including mascara or red lips). My mom and Mimi always told me that beauty is as beauty does, and I believe my actions correlate directly to the beauty in me.

While hitch hiking and hiking up the west coast from spring to autumn of 2009, my dad came out west and together we embarked north to Eugene, Oregon to visit his sister and brother. While I had the Anderson’s together and we were laughing so hard we cried, I remember my uncle Bill telling my dad how proud he is of him, for raising such a beautiful daughter. I looked at my pop and his siblings and told them my beauty was often a reflection of the beauty around me. My pop generally has loose tear ducts, but this really made them unlatch.

Have you heard of noble speech? I can’t begin to tell you how often words–like water, pour and overfill–are unable to take back. I studied Vipassana meditation during a ten day course at eight months pregnant with Willa, there I learned of speaking only kind words. How novel, that what my mother said so long ago rings true today: if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. And how kind are our lips, then? I find myself enriched and celebratory in my kind words, in practicing noble speech daily, and in using forethought in my language.

What do you think about beauty of the spirit as beauty of appearance? Do beautiful thoughts/actions/words equal beautiful in your world?

Glitter & Grit Glimpse of Cristina Victor

Cristina Victor lives in Los Angeles, California. A recent graduate from the San Francisco Art Institute she uses performance, video, drawing, humor, food and spanglish as her preferred mediums. She makes a mean flan and can probably give you a run for your money at pool.

Tell us a little about yourself, the glitter and the grit:
I’d like to think I come from a place that is both the perfect and imperfect balance of grit and glitter, Miami. And although it’s been years since I’ve lived there, I still feel very much affected by it and nostalgically connected to it. It has and continues to inform my art practice, the stories I tell and how I tell them (full of contradictions and humor of course!)
Aside from that, I love to embellish just as much as I love to get dirty! Making clothes from vintage patterns, blinging out pre-existing pieces but also riding bicycles and motorcycles (soon to own one of my own), going for adventures outdoors, getting dirty in the kitchen and wearing the same nasty yet undeniably comfortable converse sneakers I’ve worn for too long.
I guess I’m a tomboy at heart with a soft spot for domesticity.

What is your daily practice?
Water!
COFFEE!
Stretch,
work (whether for income or artistic sanity)
speak Spanish
dance will happen at some part of the day
always feed myself (and others if given the chance) food made with good intention, nourishing ingredients and love.
LAUGH
be thankful
be quiet
call my mom
and through all this, I have a great weiner dog companion named Reggie by my side.

Favorite color?
All ranges of blue, I have a weak spot for purples and violets and I secretly love flamingo pinks.
Favorites are never one answer responses with me.

Words of Wisdom:
“Lo que esta pa’ ti, nadie te lo quita!”

And, why do you love being a woman?
It has no bounds.

Want to see Cristina’s alter ego–Miami–doing what she does best? Get Cooking with Miami! I. Love. This. Show!

Today is for Lovers

Things I love today:

  • Sloppy Joes: making an organic-from-scratch-rendition of a childhood favorite
  • A plate of heart-shaped collard greens!
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  • Six gallons of kimchi inspired sauerkraut in the fermentation station cabinet!
  • Spring Equinox, moon void, and the dark moon all in this spirit infused celebratory week!
  • Surprises
  • Our anniversary breakfast (made by my guy, in/on the Senator!)
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  • Outdoor showers
  • Homemade yogurt (recipe and senator sesh coming soon, rest assured, sweet reader)
  • Open communication
  • And I still live to love love!
  • What do you love today?

    Mah Sesh with tha Senator, Y’all: Real Cultured Butter

    I grew up eating generous pats of real butter. My mom grew up eating–like many of her contemporaries–margarine. That is, until my dad convinced my mom very early in their relationship that real butter is worth the pinched pennies elsewhere. It was more involved than a financial or health debate; he had to prove to Mimi that he could tell the difference in taste. That’s right, a taste test, ladies and gents. Pecan Sandies were prepared, two batches–one with real butter, one with the counterfeit. My dad dutifully tasted each cookie. My dad postively identified the real butter Pecan Sandy (of course he did!). My dad converted the whole family to real butter. And, I’m so glad he did.

    It wasn’t until I was around 20, in West Virginia that I tasted butter from real, raw cow’s milk–butter that gave me the midnight hankerings and an all out obsession; I mean six of us sneaking through the farm house to happen upon the kitchen searching for a vessel to transport the butter to our mouths (suffice it to say that there were enough finger scoops atop the butterball that no fingers were ever pointed).

    Since that summer in West Virginia, I have found a hidden passion for butter inside the heart of me. Last autumn, while donning a very pregnant belly, my partner Cody’s mother introduced me to a blog article about butter from one of her favorite blogs (Pink of Perfection). Immediately I went to get a jar of Santa Cruz local heavy whipping cream.

    The result: a bright, beaming ball of butter!

    I’ll save the details of how to make butter for the other instruction manuals, since, there are so many mediums which teach this wonderful art (go ahead, they are all different links, I said it, so many mediums! Click away!). Some are better than others; but the bottom line is this: butter is easy to make and so healthy for human consumption! I recently read the article Why Butter is Better on the Weston A. Price Foundation website and felt a sense of security and overall contentment in my daily quest for a butter vessel.

    I realized that making my life from scratch is indeed necessary for the mingling of glitter and grit to take place. Included in making my life from scratch: making my own butter and finding new places to smear the creamy delicious spread.

    My favorite vessel for butter of late is chips and fermented salsa! The butter adds a creamy yum to the zing of the salsa. I remember being a child and eating butter and corn tortilla chips with my sister at any Mexican food restaurant, this new recipe is the cream of the crop! Just spread a little butter on the chip prior to the salsa dip, voila!

    Butter separating from the buttermilk. Drain into a jar and make buttermilk biscuits or homemade buttermilk ranch!

    Roll into a ball and store in the freezer for long keeping, store in the refrigerator, and if you think you can eat the entire butterball soon, store at room temperature!

    I am dying to know, what is your favorite butter carrier?

    Tidy Bus

    I’m one of those people who loves organizing. I’m occasionally messy, but I’m very detail oriented and super tidy. I organize my computer weekly, sometimes more, and I’m really into color coordinating, and tiny nooks with specific inhabitants. Have you ever had that conversation with your house mates? Whether you are clean or tidy? There’s a difference. I’m tidy. So moving in, for me, is a cinch. In fact, I love it. Cody is a clean person. He’s not untidy, but he is certainly clean. We often discuss this and love the complement and juxtaposition.

    Remember our move-in intentions? And how good our experience was because of them? I attribute a lot to those intentions, but I also know that our move-in experience went smooth because I am efficient at emptying boxes and placing everything in its new home. I love moving in.

    At first I arranged our books by color. It turned out that we didn’t have enough of each color yet (nor the space for enough of each color) to bring attention to the beautiful color coded books. So, we agreed upon a height arrangement. I like that. And look, just look at how the unabridged dictionary nuzzled right into its nook. There are some moments in life when I know the Divine Spirit of the Universe runs through my veins and reminds me that all is purposeful. When that dictionary found a resting place, it was one of those moments.

    I’m really liking the shelf under the books, it’s kind of our catch-all right now, because we have yet to figure out what actually lives there. So, we are storing tiny glasses and wine and an open wooden box Cody made with random things. I’m also excited to find their perfect home. But I love the process, I love it!

    Willa’s zone is on the edge of the couch using the warming shelf of the Senator oven. She can stand on the couch and use the shelf as a little table.

    And, you’ve seen the couch a few times now, but I just love it so dang much. I can’t wait to teach you more about upholstering! Cody actually raised the couch right before I upholstered to add three thin drawers for utmost organization. Systems, y’all, systems.

    And until we find the most fitting metal bread box to house our dishes above the windows over the stove, this shelf with rope will showcase our striped red milk glasses, colorful bowls and sweet hand-made plates. Also a few other kitchen accoutrements–which are waiting for a new home along the side of the refrigerator–reside on the open shelf.

    Eventually, Willa’s bedroom will be upstairs across from our bedroom. There is a small linen closet in the corner, and room for a bookshelf and a secret shelf and a cute toddler bed.

    Until she moves into her own room, we have this net to make our bedroom child friendly, and it’s actually very fun to lean against for an afternoon read or playtime. Cody and Willa enjoy making forts up there.

    Don’t you want to drive this bus from this bedroom window, like a space shuttle? It sure seems like a dream-come-true for any eight-year-old.

    When we arrive home tomorrow, there will be work and tidying up to do. I’m eager and excited to settle into our routine at home again. After a vacation, I generally love being home.

    What is your unwinding, welcome home routine? Are you tidy, or are you clean?

    Oh My Dang Discoveries!

    While reading the Pink of Perfection article where Sarah asked her readers to comment about charities that help low income girls with mentors, tutors, and college scholarships, I saw one of the comments directed her to Girls Write Now. Oh my dang, it’s my newest inspiration!

    The other night while playing with Willa and another new baby acquaintance, I began to fantasize about starting an organization that helps young women (and men) in a multitude of ways. The feeling I get when I’m helping the youth of today remains unmatched by any other job or life purpose (motherhood is obviously under this vast umbrella).

    Working in the wilds of the world, hiking alongside troubled teens, and busting cook fires with them to heat our dinner, hosting sacred fire circles with them every night before bed, and working on goals (simultaneously understanding that the journey is the goal) sends my heart aflutter. My calling hums steadfast and true: give my belief in the truth of nature to young people (I believe in you); stick close to nature while helping the youth of today stick close to their true nature. When this is less than a step outside your tent in a program facilitated to therapeutically help, opportunities like Girls Write Now make my heart sing!

    Can’t you envision Glitter & Grit offering a place where teens come visit to unplug? Teenagers could come spend a week in simplicity. I love it!

    What is your calling? Have you had an oh my dang moment lately? What was it?